… and you’ll realize, life has changed. What an obvious and repetitive statement, but sadly ignored. Or maybe ignorance is not the perfect word to frame the sensation. Maybe is comfort, which linked to this unreality we live and, not because words are similar, becomes conformity.
Food was harvested and not just collected when it would pop up from the ground, horses were domesticated, cars were deployed in the streets, people was able to see through a glass box things that were not happening immediately in front of their eyes, later they gave it even colors. Telephone was universalized and in the blink of an eye, it became a tool. Later on a miss-used one, abused. We started talking about “massive communication means”.
Couple of decades ago and following the logical trend of events, better and faster ways of communication were spread around organizations (military, commercial, public, etc.). Being money and self-profit thirst of a couple of “brilliant” minds, those tools became money factory. We were happy. Internet was an important step for human kind.
Important for sure. Now… Was it great? Was it good? We thought so and those who would keep their eyes closed to live in a perfect world, will still do. On the other hand, you’ll have those who know it and use it according to their real need; they can perfectly differentiate between necessity and stupidity. That difference put them in a, we can say, better position.
All these changes, bring with them a change in life. They modified the way we interact with people. The way we choose or consider the people we mingle with. How we miss or take into account people we love, we care or we do not.
Human beings were done to interact with others, to live in organized (in any way) groups. Don’t call it societies because that would set a standard which maybe is also incorrect. To talk, to see, to not talk, to not see. To know what is required or whatever calls our attention, depending on how curious we are or we are not. That’s fine and nobody can argue what everyone wants to know and learn or leave aside. To ignore, consider or absorb.
The word “extrañar” in spanish (to miss) comes from latin “extraneare” and it means “from outside, alien”. It was used when something was not normal or the way it normally is. That led to use it when things are not like always… when something is not as it used to be.
When somebody goes away for any reason, things for both parties are not the same: for the one who stays and the one who draws away. There’s something strange that we must get used to and we normally do. But we don’t see the other, either as often as always or never again. We miss her or him.
Where am I going?
The sensation produced by all communications means nowadays, deprived us from that luxury of knowing what someone REALLY means for us and how much we need the part which is missing. How strange that would really be if we wouldn’t feel that is still so close. That we know what’s happening on the other side on daily basis, hourly even.
Time seems to fly. Things happen in the antipode or our chair and we don’t reach our cup to enjoy a sip of coffee that we already know our opposite chair has been destroyed after a explosion, earthquake, volcano eruption, war or epidemic.
Missing, caring, loving is part of our lives. We must experienced those feeling in a pure way and come back to that real sensation… today, blurred by information and a fake proximity that communication means dazzle us with.
When a phone call was better than a “Like”? Or a comment on a casual picture, that maybe somebody casually bumped into with, better than a letter or post card? What I mean is the casual and reminded call back to those you love and not the exclusive dedication of a couple of minutes for someone, which is undisputable more natural. More fulfilling and human.
Is it the same to think about someone and grab the phone… to give a call? Say hi… I’m fine, what about you… and hang up… than checking out his or her pictures, to know everything is fine. Make a “comment” to show you’re alive or just to have fun. Done… you’ve showed to the other and to yourself you care. Come on!
We must learn how to live our lives and make it as real as possible! To care about things and people we need! To disregard whatever crap media tries to get into our mind, and to save that time for our children, wives, husbands, family, friends… or just another human being that we can directly, and “really” affect.
Life is short (using short as a comparative to something else: the time we would like to be in the earth and not just the one we were given). This is only because when our time comes, we realize we would have liked to do things different. Always.
Two things
We must try to understand the importance of knowing about things we really need. Those things which will bring something useful to our life, that will enrich it, or the other’s!
Dedication to a unique person for a moment sometimes… it makes a difference. Casually bumping into someone because a non-human application put it in front of your eyes, it’s comfortable. It’s fast, isn’t?
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